Have you ever Googled “why women compete”? This is a question I asked my friends and then decided to ask Google. What sparked this question was a curious scenario I kept on finding myself in at my place of work.
So I turned to Google and I have to admit that I was shocked and saddened by the number of articles and research that has been done on this topic, are we as women really that horrible to each other? And if we are, why?
One such research piece had the following explanation:
“Because women learn that they are not supposed to be competitive and win at others’ expense, their natural competitive spirit cannot be shared openly, happily, or even jokingly with other women. In such situations, when aggression cannot be channelled into a healthy, positive edge, it becomes inhibited and goes underground. What could have been healthy competition becomes a secret feeling of envy and desire for the other to fail – laced with guilt and shame.”
Are we projecting what we perceive others to feel? I think not, I think this is over complicating a very simple issue….women are insecure. Since the fall in the Garden of Eden, we have been told that we are the cause of pain, we have to suffer to bear children and to earn a living, we caused it all to go pear shape.
So often in churches, we are taught this story, I mean, who does not know the story of the perfect Garden of Eden and poor, weak Eve that was deceived by the Serpent and caused the whole world to live in sin?
I think that this fault has been so deeply ingrained in our very being, for centuries this message have been spoken to women that that is who we have become. Did we not miss the plot here? Did the Lord not say:
“And I will put enmity
between you and the woman,
and between your offspring and hers;
he will crush your head,
and you will strike his heel.” Genesis 3:15 (NIV)
Why does the story seem to stop at how Eve caused the downfall and we neglect to see that God promised that by the Seed (Jesus) of the woman the serpents’ head will be crushed?
Our glory as women have been restored! Mother Mary have given birth to Jesus 2000 odd years ago, and the Serpent have forever been destroyed. Why then, my dear sisters, are we still living under the bondage of that sin and guilt? Why then are we still so insecure? Each and every one of us is the daughter of the God most High, we are the bride God has come for, His perfect queen to rule over the Kingdom He has entrusted to us, the hearts of his sons and daughters!
Let’s open our eyes to God’s promise in Genesis that was fulfilled in Matthew, Mark, Luke and John.
The longer we spend breaking ourselves and each other down, the longer the enemy and his lies are ruling our worlds. Do you not realise, oh beautiful sister, that you are limiting yourself when you compare yourself?
You might have a smaller waist than I do, but my thunder thighs can kick your tiny bum. Your voice is like that of an Angel, but my belly laugh can have anyone in stitches.
If we each play to our strengths, can you imagine how fierce our team will be? I cannot dream to do what you are supposed to do, as well as you can do it, and vice versa.
Let us celebrate our differences and build each other up, because our glory has been restored.