Everyday Life · Womanhood

Can the real Proverbs 31 woman please stand up!?

The church has been praising the Proverbs 31 woman for as long as I can remember. We are motivated to grow to be more and more like her. I too have fallen in love with this woman, yearning to be more like her. Recently I realized I have no idea who this woman really is. Take a quick pause, and write down all the virtues or great things you can remember about this woman (no cheating!).

Here are some of her values I missed – did you get them?


If you missed some of these, go back and look for them in the scripture. We are so caught up with the mainstream message of being a kind, generous, humble wifely type of woman; we forget that a Godly woman can be so much more.

She can be single, she can be an entrepreneur or a CEO, she can be married with (or without) children, she does not have to make dinner each night, or clean the house on a daily basis. She can be whatever God made her to be. You do not have to be a wife, or homemaker to be a Godly woman. You have a value that is far greater than “just having a husband and children”. God has a dream for you; He sculpted you for a purpose that only you can fulfill. He wants you to enjoy marriage and children, but He also wants you to embrace your calling, passion and your destiny.

The proverbs 31 woman considered a field and bought it, from the profit she plants a vineyard. She makes linen garments and sells them; her lamp does not go out by night.  This woman is fashionable, friendly, and kind. She never sits still, always busy helping, serving and doing.

She sounds like so many of my friends, and the woman I aspire to one day be. She is the poster girl for the modern woman. Most women I know today are providing food for their families (nowhere in the passage it actually says make the food, just provide it). Most women are involved with tough household or business decisions, acquiring properties, selling products or services without even realizing that she is honoring God in a very profound way!

I would love to also make profitable property investments, make important business decisions, and provide (not only cook) food for my family. I would love to be able to give freely to those in need. I would love to be known as the always positive, always humble and always gracious woman down the road. Talk about a diversified skill-set! Instead of telling us, how to act and be, I now realise this passage celebrates the uniqueness that comes with being a woman. You could be honoring God as a wife, mom, homemaker, entrepreneur, employee or volunteer in the community (just to name a few).

Being loving or serving is not only limited to women, as we sometimes believe. Just like Jesus, we should all be prepared to submit and serve those around us. In light of everything, I just wrote down, I want to challenge you and myself to be gracious and celebrate the women who are like you, but most importantly celebrate those who are not. Take what you can learn from them, and grow into a woman of valor, a woman that is in all forms of the word excellent, become the REAL PROVERBS 31 Woman, and stand up!


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